self-love

INVESTING IN YOURSELF

Happy hump day!  Today I want to talk about investing in ourselves.  Yesterday on social media I briefly shared about the importance of investing in ourselves, and today I want to go a bit more in depth.  

For me, investing in myself is like saying, "Jen, you are worthy of providing yourself the best care possible."  We are ALL worthy of providing ourselves supreme care, but often times investing in ourselves can fall by the wayside for one reason or another.  If I were to have one intention as a coach and practitioner, it would be to guide my clients to know the experience of divine self-love and care.  This is vital, and what I feel is the root of many other fulfilling experiences in life.

Side note: investing in yourself doesn't necessarily need to cost anything.  

Caring for myself looks different all the time, so let's take a look at a few examples:

  • Spending a few extra minutes when getting ready for the day.  This has less to do about appearance, and more to do with how this makes you feel.  I know for me that when I "get ready," I feel more productive.  
  • Taking a course, or attending and event or workshop to further your own personal growth or business.
  • Saying "no" when your need to.
  • Listening to your body, and providing her nourishment.  Whether it is eating a bowl of roasted veggies or a bowl of ice cream.  Taking a walk with your dog or lifting weights.  Listening to what your body is telling you is a huge form of investing in yourself.
  • Taking time to rest and relax.  Whether it is going to be early, having a spa day, laying on the couch watching Netflix, or taking a nap, these experiences are important for rejuvenation. 
  • Making space in your life for more joy, fun, and happiness.  

I could keep going on different ways to invest in yourself, but the main component is knowing your worth, and feeling that self-love and care on a daily level.

What does investing in yourself look like to you?

If self-care is something that you would like to deepen in, sign-up below to be the first on my workshop list for The Soul Connection Series, and read more about it here.  We will be talking all about how to best care for ourselves in Nourish Your Soul: A Guide to Divine Self-Care, followed by a really fun Vision Board Workshop.  Registration will begin next week!

xo.

Jen

 

NEW FALL WORKSHOPS

Hi friends!  As I mentioned the other day, I have two workshops that are coming up this fall, and I am SO excited to share a bit about them today.  Let's jump in!  Say hello to:


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The Soul Connection Series is all about owning your desires, living an inspired life, and ultimately being in sync with your soul.  Doesn't that sound like so much fun?!  

For both workshops I am intentionally curating a small, sacred space (think: ten people and lots of cozy vibes).  This is so we can have meaningful conversation and coaching, and create a purposeful afternoon where everyone feels like their needs are met.

The first of the two workshops is Nourish Your Soul: A Guide to Divine Self-Care.  During this workshop we will go through the nuts and bolts of what self-care is and why it is so vital to our souls, unlock any limiting beliefs of why self-care doesn't work for you, and ultimately guide you to develop a self-care ritual that is individual to you.   

The second workshop is a Vision Board Workshop.  We've all heard of The Secret, right?  Well, it's not much of a secret anymore, because more and more people are recognizing that visualization is super powerful!  Vision boards have been widely popular over the years, but what sets this workshop apart from others, is that we will go through a unique process that I've created where you will get crystal clear about the desires and vision that you want in your life.  This is sure to be a fun and creative afternoon!

"Leaving today I feel a sense of renewal and excitement.  The concepts are broken down in a digestible way, and the content is so rich.  I can't wait to take what I have learned and use it in my daily life!"  

Past workshop attendee

To be the first on the list, simply fill out the form below.  Space is limited, and these workshops fill up quickly.

Over the next few weeks I will be sharing more about my own journey with self-care and vision boards, and what it feels like to me.  In the mean time, if you have any questions, please reach out and let me know!  

xo.  Jen

 

I'M FEATURED ON MY FIRST PODCAST!

Good morning, friends!  I hope you all had a fantastic weekend!  Mine was spent packing, organizing, and getting ready for our move to Ventura next weekend.  So excited!

Being a Self-Love Junkie with Jennifer Seale on The Couragemakers Podcast

In other exciting news, today I am featured on my very first podcast!  Meg from That Hummingbird Life invited me on her stellar podcast, The Couragemakers.  "Courage makers is a weekly podcast for creative and passionate, mission-driven doers, makers, and world-shakers designed to inspire and encourage fellow courage makers, and spark a movement of women who are choosing themselves."  Fantastic, right?  

During our time together I share part of my story and past, and how I got to where I am in the present moment.  We also talk a lot about shifting from self-doubt and guilt to self-love and listening to your intuition.  Such great authentic conversation!

Meg is a wonderful interviewer (and now dear friend) and provided such a safe, gentle space for me to share, and I am so grateful for this opportunity.  Thank you Meg!

LISTEN HERE

Thank you for listening, and thank you for your love!

xo.  Jen

SHOWING YOURSELF KINDNESS AND COMPASSION

Good morning, friends!  

Lately I have been re-reading Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff.  This book is truly incredible, and while I have mentioned it before, but I feel like I am picking up different bits of wisdom and insight with each page I turn.  I highly recommend it!

When life is tough and stressful, or when we make mistakes (which is bound to happen because we're human), the first thing many of us tend to do is beat ourselves up, or make ourselves wrong.  

I really love this quote by Kristin Neff, because it shows us how to look at the situation with a new set of glasses.  Does beating ourself up really help the situation?  No.  Does picking out every little comment that we said or action that we made make it better?  No.  Then lets look at it differently.

How can we show ourselves more kindness and compassion during a difficult time?  Maybe it's through seeking what we need in that moment, whether it be a quiet moment alone, picking up take-out on the way home from work, a hug from a friend, or something else.  Such food for thought, yes?  

I've found for myself that when I look within and see how I can provide comfort to my soul, (even if it is as simple as having Starbucks make my coffee for me), compassion sets in, and I tend to see the situation differently.  

What about you?  I'd love to hear how you show yourself kindness and compassion during times of need!

xo.  Jen  

P.S. Exciting stuff coming up at The HHB!  Stay tuned!  

CREATIVITY, MAGIC, FEAR, & SELF-WORTH

IMG_0430Hi beauties!  I've mentioned a few times that I have been reading Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, and gosh do I love it.  I imagine that Ms. Gilbert talks an awful lot like she writes, which I absolutely love.  She's authentic and vulnerable and creative.  Which is exactly what the book is about: creative living beyond fear.  Doesn't that just sound magical? I wanted to share one of my favorite parts of the book thus far with you (don't worry, I'm not giving anything major away).  Gilbert writes about living creatively at any age, and shares a story about a close friend of hers.  Her friend excelled at and loved figure skating as a child, but stopped when she was an adolescent with fear of not being a champion, AKA not good enough. Gilbert says, "Ah, lovely adolescence--when the 'talented' are officially shunted off from the herd, thus putting the total burden of society's creative dreams on the thin shoulders of a few select souls, while condemning everyone else to live a more commonplace, inspiration-free existence!  What a system..."  While she says this with a hint of sarcastic humor, how true is this for so many?  Unfortunately, it was very true for me.  Thankfully, I finally exited that phase of low self-esteem and worthiness issues, but, just like most humans, I feel twinges of it occasionally.  The difference now is that I have the tools to deal with those feelings, and that's what I want to get into today.

WHERE THE DO FEELINGS OF UNWORTHINESS COME FROM?

Well, that's a pretty loaded question, and it is completely different for everyone.  In the spirit of transparency (and major vulnerability) I am going to share mine, because chances are someone will connect with it on some level.  Mine started when I was about 12.  I was uprooted out of my comfort zone, moved to a new town, started a new school, and was forced to meet new people.  In retrospect, I am very grateful for this (and absolutely do NOT blame my parents on any level), but at the time it sucked.  The middle-school years are when children are learning, growing, and figuring out who they are and how they fit into the world, and THEN hormones are thrown in on top of it.  I felt the need to shy away at what I was passionate about (and good at) in fear of what others would think about me.  I didn't speak up, in fact my voice was less heard.  On top of all that, my body was changing.  I have curves by nature (which I now love), but at that time it was just awkward.  As you can imagine, fear ran it's ugly little head and my worth started to diminish.  This basically went on for the next 13ish years...

HOW CAN WE TRANSFORM UNWORTHINESS TO KNOWING OUR WORTH?

I truly wish I could wave a magic wand and tell you that this can happen in seconds, but the truth is, it's a process.  A process that is different and deep for everyone.  Here are a few different ways that guided and assisted me on my own path:

  • Try to figure out the root of where these feelings are stemming from, and go from there.  Things that helped me along the process: journaling, talking to those close to me, finding a spiritual community that I connected with (this was HUGE for me), and practicing self-care.
  • Recognize your fears, and ask yourself why you are afraid.  There is no judgement in being fearful, but sometimes honoring why you are feeling that way is the first step in release.
  • Be gentle with yourself.  In my opinion, this is most important.  As a society we have such a tendency to want immediate gratification, that we tend to forget that life is a process.  Be gentle with yourself throughout the process.

As you can see, this book has sparked a lot of inspiration and creativity within me, and I highly recommend it.  I hope this post was helpful for you, and if there is any way that I can be of support to you, please reach out.  I'd love to chat!

xo.  Jen