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INVESTING IN YOURSELF

Happy hump day!  Today I want to talk about investing in ourselves.  Yesterday on social media I briefly shared about the importance of investing in ourselves, and today I want to go a bit more in depth.  

For me, investing in myself is like saying, "Jen, you are worthy of providing yourself the best care possible."  We are ALL worthy of providing ourselves supreme care, but often times investing in ourselves can fall by the wayside for one reason or another.  If I were to have one intention as a coach and practitioner, it would be to guide my clients to know the experience of divine self-love and care.  This is vital, and what I feel is the root of many other fulfilling experiences in life.

Side note: investing in yourself doesn't necessarily need to cost anything.  

Caring for myself looks different all the time, so let's take a look at a few examples:

  • Spending a few extra minutes when getting ready for the day.  This has less to do about appearance, and more to do with how this makes you feel.  I know for me that when I "get ready," I feel more productive.  
  • Taking a course, or attending and event or workshop to further your own personal growth or business.
  • Saying "no" when your need to.
  • Listening to your body, and providing her nourishment.  Whether it is eating a bowl of roasted veggies or a bowl of ice cream.  Taking a walk with your dog or lifting weights.  Listening to what your body is telling you is a huge form of investing in yourself.
  • Taking time to rest and relax.  Whether it is going to be early, having a spa day, laying on the couch watching Netflix, or taking a nap, these experiences are important for rejuvenation. 
  • Making space in your life for more joy, fun, and happiness.  

I could keep going on different ways to invest in yourself, but the main component is knowing your worth, and feeling that self-love and care on a daily level.

What does investing in yourself look like to you?

If self-care is something that you would like to deepen in, sign-up below to be the first on my workshop list for The Soul Connection Series, and read more about it here.  We will be talking all about how to best care for ourselves in Nourish Your Soul: A Guide to Divine Self-Care, followed by a really fun Vision Board Workshop.  Registration will begin next week!

xo.

Jen

 

BALANCE VS. EXTREME

food-healthy-coffee-cup-largeHi friends!  Jumping right in today... I feel like so many people that I come into contact with have an "all or nothing" mentality when it comes to how they take care of their mind and body.  Maybe I recognize it because it was something that I dealt with heavily in the past, and I can only imagine the emotional weight that may be on their heart?  Maybe it's because now I know how good it feels to be in balance, and I couldn't imagine going back?  Either way, today I am here to chat about the differences between balance and extreme.

This is what EXTREME looks, feels, sounds, and tastes like to me.  I say to me, because this is all from past personal experience.  Everyone's experience is different.
  • I'm going to be 100% vegan, gluten-free, low-sugar, and Ayurvedic ALL AT THE SAME TIME!  No cheese, no caffeine, no sourdough, no alcohol, no eggs, no fun, only kale.
  • I don't have X amount of followers on Instagram so I must be a total loser.
  • That chocolate cake looks heavenly, but I can't eat it because it must have 3956310 calories.  Oh, that's okay, I'll eat it anyway and run six miles tomorrow to make up for it.
  • If I am not as enlightened as Deepak Chopra and Oprah combined, then I am doomed for failure.
  • Fainting spells due to my body being in starvation mode.
  • The "Fuck It" mentality.  IE: "Fuck it, I had a hard day at work and deserve that huge plate of nachos and 7 margaritas!"  When later you are guilt ridden, bloated, and left with a nasty hangover.
This is what BALANCE looks, feels, sounds, and tastes like to me.  I say to me, because this is all from current personal experience.  Again, everyone's experience is different.
  • Intuitive eating.  Most times that naturally looks vegan, gluten-free, low-sugar, and Ayurvedic, but other times it looks like pizza and beer.  Yay for choices!
  • Knowing that the people I connect with in business and in my personal life are there for a reason.
  • Chocolate cake can be delicious!  Especially when mindful about it.
  • Enlightenment is not a destination, it's a journey.  Not sure if I heard that somewhere or made it up, but it really resonates with me.
  • Listening to my body rocks!  I nourish her with yummy foods, and treat her with kindness.  Oh ya, I haven't fainted since!
  • There is absolutely nothing wrong with eating nachos and drinking margaritas. However, taking into consideration why you're doing something is super important.

We all have a tendency to go to the extreme in some situations, and that's totally okay.  We are human after all!  The difference is recognizing why it may be occurring, and coming back to center.  If balance is something that you want more of in your life I encourage you to make a list of all the things you want to feel and experience.  Sometimes writing it down, letting it out, and recognizing what we really do what can do wonders.

If you are ready for transformation and want to have a more balanced approach in life, I have two remaining coaching spots available for the month of February, and would love to provide you with a consultation.  I am here to support you in whatever way feels right to you, and can't wait to talk!

xo.  Jen

WELCOME 2016!

photo 5Happy New Year, beauties!  How is 2016 going for you so far?  If I could describe the start of my year in a few words, it would be purposeful and cozy.  I spent lots of time at home with my boys...reading, relaxing, organizing, PLANNING (with my new Danielle LaPorte planner, which I loveeee), creating a vision board (more on that later), and just doing whatever felt good to us.  It was great! Over the weekend we saw family for a short time, and that was also really fun.  While with them, we wandered around, and during that time I stumbled across this giant phrase printed on the ground in one of my favorite shops.   YOU ARE EXACTLY WHERE YOU NEED TO BE.  Ahh...this was so perfect for me, and exactly what I needed to hear at the start of a brand new year!  Does anyone else connect with this statement, too?

Do you ever feel like at times you are needing to do something else, or be someone different? Maybe it's eating a specific type of diet, making more money at work, losing weight, looking a certain way,  gaining more Instagram followers, or something else?  Whatever it is, I'm giving you all the opportunity to step back, and look at the situation differently.  When I did that, this is what came up for me: worry less, do more of what feels good, stop comparing myself to others, and go into all situations with a loving, grateful heart.  Those statements feel much more authentic, and also much more in the moment, rather than needing to be something else.

If you'd like to share, I'd love to hear what came up for you?  Also, if I can be of support to you in any way, please reach out for a complimentary consultation.  I'd love to connect and chat with you!

Sending you all lots of love for a beautiful 2016!

xo.  Jen

INTUITIVE EATING 101

food-salad-restaurant-person-mediumHi friends!  Today I am here to talk about intuitive eating.  We, as humans, are intuitive by nature, and I feel that absolutely extends to our eating.  However, we (myself included) don't always follow our intuition.  Intuitive eating is the idea that when we listen to and trust our bodies, we are naturally led to a way of eating that is best for us based on an individual level. Who likes being on a restrictive diet?  I see zero hands raised.  Intuitive eating is the opposite of dieting. Dieting leads us to believe that there are "good" foods and "bad" foods, and when we don't follow our diet strictly, we often feel guilty, and end up eating emotionally anyway.  No fun. P.S. I only know this because in the past, I HAVE BEEN THERE, way tooooo many times!

food-salad-dinner-eating-largeLet's take a deeper look at intuitive eating, and how we can all connect with our inner intuition on a deeper level.

  • Listen for your hunger.  Often times people eat because of one or more of the following reasons: the clock says it is 6:00pm and that is "dinner time," our friends are eating so we should join them, out of habit, etc.
  • Finish eating when you feel satisfied.  On a scale of 1 (starving, belly completely empty) - 10 (full, stuffed to the max), I feel best when I begin eating at a 3, and stop at a 7/8.  If we eat when we're famished, we tend to eat everything in sight, and very quickly and mindlessly.  When we eat when we're not hungry, more often than not, this is emotional and on a deeper level.  Something I always tell myself is "if you're still hungry in 30 minutes, eat again."  This always helps, and 99% of the time, I am not hungry later on.
  • Eat things that taste delicious, and make you feel nourished.  Food is not only a source of energy, but it is meant to be pleasurable!  I'm not saying every meal for the remainder of your life has to be a 5 star gourmet experience, but what I am saying is that it should taste good!  Studies have shown that when we truly enjoy our food, whether it is a bowl of Brussel sprouts or a slice of chocolate cake, it nourishes us on a greater cellular level.
  • Pay attention to how your body reacts.  Notice how your body feels after you eat.  Do you feel light with more energy, or sluggish and like you want to take a nap?  Do you feel saisfied, or like you need to eat 20 minutes later?  Any physical reactions (intestinal, headaches, etc.) may be a sign or an sensitivity or allergy.
  • Trust yourself.  We are all unique individuals, and we all require different types of food to fuel our bodies.  What works for one person, may not work for the next (hence why diets don't work).  Trust that your body knows what to do, and recognize when she will always provide you with the right nutrition.

photo 5 (2)Look at the photo above (taken on a trip to NYC with two of my favorite gal pals and fellow health coaches, Paige & Simi).  This is me.  All of me.  I'm not a size 2, nor do I have rock hard abs.  I have curves, soft skin, and strong legs.  I eat intuitively, I am STILL on my own personal journey and have days where I "feel all the feelings," but most importantly...I am happy and healthy.

I hope this post was helpful!  If you are interested in learning more about intuitive eating, health coaching, or just want to explore, I'd love to provide you with a consultation.  Can't wait to chat!

xo.  Jen

BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF

lake-nyon-eva-largeHi friends!  I'm jumping right into it today... I recently had a conversation with someone that left me feeling sad and helpless.  My humanness wanted to shower them with joy, and take all of their pain and sorrow away.  I wanted to go all Olivia Pope and fix the situation.   Honest moment: this has been (or used to be) a reoccurring theme in my life.  I'm maternal by nature, have a big heart, and truly want the best for every person I encounter.  This is not boasting, it is just who I am, and while it may all seem well and good, my empathy has been a major fault at times.

Here's the thing though, the experiences of others, are not mine to fix.  Why, you may ask?  We are not broken, so we do not need to be fixed.  Perhaps the experience that arises is there for a reason. Now, before you say "Jen, you're so woo-woo," stick with me.  Perhaps the experiences that challenge us the most, are the ones that we grow the most from?  Or maybe these experiences are where we can gain the most healing and clarity from?  I know for myself this is completely true, because it has happened (way more than once, too)!  Has it ever happened to you?

I also know (from my own experiences), that sometimes while we are going through the muck of it, it doesn't feel like growth or healing.  It feels like crap, and it feels like it will never change. This is where being gentle with yourself is sooooo important.  Listening to not only your mind and your body, but also your spirit.  What if your spirit saying?  To slow down, have some alone time, connect with those you love, or something else?

If you're on the other end, and you are the one that is listening, be gentle with yourself, too. This is part of why I became a health coach and a spiritual practitioner.  Instead of fixing people (because AGAIN, we are not broken), I help others see the truth of who they really are.  The truth is, we are all perfect.  Their truth is already there, I just assist them on their own path of growth and healing, and it's a beautiful, magical thing.

Did this resonate with you?  I'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic.   Also, if you are "in the muck of it," this is a great opportunity to reach out for a complimentary consultation.  Lots of hugs and love to each of you!

xo.  Jen