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WHEN IT JUST FEELS RIGHT

Hi friends!  I've missed you the last few weeks!  I shared on Instagram the other day that I had taken a little time away from blogging as part of deep self-care.  We have an exciting change coming up in our life, and it felt best for me to take a little down time before all of the change occurs.  With that being said...

WE'RE MOVING BACK TO VENTURA!!!

YAY!  You have no idea how happy I am to share that news with you all, and how thrilled I am to be moving back to our sweet little town on the beach.  SO EXCITED!  

A little over a year ago, Greg and I made the decision to move to Pasadena.  It was mainly so he could be closer to work and not have to commute as much, but it was also about stepping out of our comfort zone and embarking on a new adventure together.  And an adventure it has been!  While in Pasadena we adopted Charlie (greatest blessing ever) and explored a new city, but most importantly, stretched and deepened our relationship with one another.  While we are very happy to be moving back to Ventura, we are also grateful for the opportunities in growth and love that the past year has brought us.  

There is a laundry list of reasons why we are moving back to Ventura, but the main thing it boiled down to for us was: It just felt right.  For me (and I can probably guess for Greg, too), when I closed my eyes and put my hand on my heart, the answer was clear.   

Much more will be shared, but for now I am just super excited that we're finally able to fully spill the beans!

Thank you for all the love and support!

xo.  Jen

HAPPY SPRING!

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Happy Monday! Yesterday was the first day of spring, and I found myself really thinking about the change from winter to spring (or summer to fall depending on where you live), but also the metaphor behind us merging into a new season.

Spring is a time of intention and new beginnings.  It's a time where we plant seeds into the earth, and after a while seedlings start to rise and whatever we planted begins to mature.  With time, love, care, and essential elements like water and sunshine, towards the end of the season we have the fruits of our labor.

This is a season of new growth and change, a time where the light shines a little brighter and stays a little longer.  A time where we birth new ideas, take action, and achieve goals.

I sat down with a cup of coffee yesterday morning and really thought about the growth that I wanted to set in place for this coming season.  Here were a few of my intentions:

  • Spend more time outdoors.  With the extra sunshine comes more time that can be spent in nature.  Whether that means taking a hike, going on walks, or even having dinner on the patio.
  • Less Netflix in the evening, more reading.  HA!  This made me laugh when I typed it out.  I am certainly not judging myself, however I did notice this last winter we spent more time in the evening watching Netflix.  Partially because it was dark, and partially because it was relaxing.  Moving into spring I'd like to substitute reading, if I feel like it.
  • Smoothies!  Mmm...I'm so excited for this!  I choose to eat as seasonally as possible, and for me, smoothies taste and feel so much better in the spring and summer.  Cool, light, and refreshing!
  • Move through my fears.  This is specifically related to my business.  There are a few things I have been wanting to do, but in the past fear has stopped me.  I feel ready and excited for what's ahead!

What is your intention this season?  What ideas would you like to plant and see grow?

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I encourage you to dig deep into your heart and ask yourself those questions, and any more that you may have.  If you have any further questions, I am here for additional support.

xo.  Jen

SETTING BOUNDARIES

coffee-cup-mug-apple-largeHi friends!  I have something on my heart that makes me feel very vulnerable.  To be honest, I wasn't going to share it, but then I realized that this is such a beautiful safe place, and I needed to.  So here it goes... Story time: Over the weekend Greg and I were wandering around Target, when all of a sudden I receive a phone call.  I just purchased a new phone about 20 minutes prior and hadn't synced my contacts yet, so when the number popped up, there was no name and I didn't recognize it right away.  When I finally realized who was calling, I had already pressed "answer."  It was someone from my past; someone whom currently isn't in my life for one reason or another. Suddenly, with one "hello," all of these feelings and emotions started coming up.  Their behavior hadn't changed, and I found myself feeling guilt, sadness, and complete nausea (again, reminiscent of the past).  In the middle of the linens isle, I was shaking and about to cry, all while being completely pissed off.  Not at this person I was having a conversation with, at myself. Why didn't I clearly communicate all of my thoughts and feelings before?  Why aren't they hearing me now?  How could I have let this person walk all over me?  Why am I allowing this behavior to happen again?  Why have I not set boundaries with this person?  More on this in a minute...

When I was going through my four year training to become a spiritual practitioner (yes, even as a licensed spiritual practitioner and certified health coach, I still have fun stuff like this come up for me) we discussed the importance of setting boundaries in length.  Whether it's with our self, partner, family, friends, or colleagues, we are all constantly in relationship, and in relationships, boundaries come up.

Before we get further into boundaries, I want you all to know that I believe each and every person that enters our lives is there for a reason.  Some people may be in my life forever, and some may only be there a brief time.  I can say with all my heart that I have learned and experienced personal growth from all of them (even if I didn't want to at the time).  Totally okay if you don't agree with this, but it's something that I have learned to accept and embrace over time.

So, what are some ways we can set healthy boundaries?

  • One of the most brilliant pieces of advice I have ever received was from a friend and mentor: "Sometimes saying no to others, means saying yes to yourself."  I mean, WOW!  I remember this in the most simple situations to the most complicated circumstances.  This is not being selfish, it is simply taking care of ourselves.
  • Other people's feelings and needs are no more important than my own.  I've written about this before, but in order to love and care for others, we must love and care for ourselves first.  This doesn't mean that the other person isn't worthy of receiving, it just means that you do too.
  • Identify and speak-up.  Whether it's something inappropriate that was said or you feel uncomfortable for whatever reason, recognizing what you don't like and bringing it up in a reasonable matter with the other person in a great first step.  Also, often times, the other party may not even realize what they are doing in the first place, and this can be a gentle way to bring it to their attention.

You may be wondering how the rest of that conversation went.  Well, I ended the call by simply saying something along the lines of, "I wish you the best, but this isn't a conversation and relationship I want to have.  Take care."  Seems a little blunt, but it was necessary.  It wasn't easy, and my stomach felt uneasy afterwards. But, after that settled, I realized I made the best decision for me, and in the end, that's what is most important.

xo.  Jen

 

EVERY WOMAN IS A REBEL TEE

IMG_0512Happy Friday!  Just a quick post to remind you to check out my interview with Raquel and Marisol from She Arises.  Did you see it the other day?  I loved interviewing them!  ALSO, they are doing a special giveaway of their "Every Woman is a Rebel" tee (sooo cute) just for my readers.  Super sweet, right?  Simply follow them on Facebook and/or Instagram, and The HHB on Facebook and/or Instagram for your chance to win! Have a great weekend!  We're headed to Ventura.  Yay!

xo.  Jen

INTERVIEW WITH: RAQUEL + MARISOL FROM SHE ARISES

Hi loves!  I mentioned yesterday that I was starting a new series where I interview various creatives, bloggers, entrepreneurs, non-profits, small business owners, and beyond.  I am SOOOO excited about this series!  My goal is to empower others by sharing their journey, what they are about, and some fun information too (because fun is necessary)!

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Raquel

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For my first interview I decided to work with the ladies behind She Arises, (you may remember that I did a guest post on body positivity for them a while back).  Raquel, who started She Arises is an old friend and roommate (we used to stay up watching The Wedding Singer most nights, and she is the genius that introduced me to dry shampoo), and Marisol is the main blogger behind She Arises (who is SO sweet).  These ladies have a super amazing mission to empower and uplift others, fight the good fight, and spread awareness for great causes.  I am ALL about that! Not to mention that they have a super cute online boutique where they sell great graphic tees + more.  FYI, this interview is a bit longer than most, as it is with TWO people.  Let's jump in!

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Q:Tell us a little bit about yourself!

RAQUEL: I am a daughter of the king, a loved wife, a proud latina, psychology student, entrepreneur, lover & server of people.

MARISOL: I am a 29 year old who is ready for her 30’s.  My 20’s really defined me as a person. Marriage, six jobs and a full time student all at once! Soon after that, kids, and figuring out my career made my twenties feel like 30 years condensed into one decade.   

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Q:What inspired you to create She Arises?

R: I believe that each and every one of us is responsible in leaving our world better than how we came into it, however that may look like individually. We are the salt of the earth and the light of the world.  We are all responsible to help and make a difference for our generation.

She Arises was born out of a passion to make positive waves in our community, and to offer a positive and inspiring brand that women can relate to, and be proud of wearing.

To give back.

M: I was drawn to Raquel’s cause because I could relate.  We share a passion for speaking for those who can’t speak for themselves.  We see value in every unique person and believe that there are many unsung heroes out there that deserve some recognition.  

Q: What is your mission/goal?

R: She Arises was created because I had a desire to build a platform to shine light on women making waves in our communities. I want to offer an opportunity to purchase exclusively designed apparel that sparks conversations, inspires and celebrates women. To provide an opportunity to purchase with a cause with a portion of the proceeds going towards assisting people transitioning out of homelessness.

M: My goal is to sprinkle love into every blog I write, and to be a support system for all the people on the sidelines who want to speak up.

Q:How do you show yourself radical self-love?

R: This may sound very simple and not so glamorous at all… radical self-love is treating myself to long hours of continuous sleep, uninterrupted by alarms.  Where I wake up and feel fresh, inspired and ready to take on the day.  Facials, massages and pedicures don’t hurt either of course! ;)

M: I remind myself that my core and my uniqueness are what makes me beautiful.  

Q: What is your favorite self-care regimen?

R: Can I use sleep again? Since my days are so long, and my nights are so short sleep is the number one way of showing myself self-care, followed by a hot bath, a warm cup of tea and a good book in a bed with fresh clean sheets. Just typing it makes my heart smile!

M: Trying to be better each day.  Forgiving myself for my mistakes and looking forward with a positive attitude.  I do love masks and exfoliating at the beach but haven't done it too much the past couple of years because of our contaminated beaches (sad face).

Q:When do you feel the most beautiful?

R: In the morning.

M: When I get all dressed up and ready.  That includes something stylish, maybe some cute heels, make-up, and hair done.

Q: Do you have a spiritual practice?  If so, describe it.

R: One word: Jesus.

M: Prayer, lot’s of meditation, self-analyzing, working through emotions through prayer and meditation.  

Q:What does a Happy, Healthy Balance look like to you?

R: I believe that we need to be intentional about balancing our life.  It’s so easy to get wrapped up in a cycle of work and productivity until we burn out (we live in a society where busyness is praised and admired).

To me a happy, healthy balance is a combination of physical rest, positive social connections with people who speak love into your life by uplifting and championing you on, and a spiritual relationship with Jesus.

Be intentional about your self-care & self-love, if you don’t do it no one else will do it for you!

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M: Living a healthy lifestyle and occasionally getting wild (responsibly of course) just enough to keep you balanced.  

Q:Where can we find you?  

R: Website: www.shearises.com • Instagram: @shearises and @raquel_placito_romero • Facebook

M:Blogging at She Arises's • Instagram: @marilovesol

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1.What is the last meal you cooked?

R: Platanos machos in coconut oil (fried plantains in coconut oil)

M: Baked enchilada casserole with Spanish rice and rotisserie chicken.

2.  Favorite food?

R: Currently, I have to say juice from the Whole Foods juice bar called the V9.  I like it on the rocks (ice).  It has tomatoes, carrot, celery, cucumber, kale, spinach, chard, bell pepper, parsley, extra lemon.

M: Everything!

3.Favorite way to indulge?

R: Anything with carbs, I repeat anything… LOL!

M: Coffee and pan dulce.

4.What is your favorite way to move your body?

R: Crossfit, lifting, and stretching.

M: Dancing.

5.Who is your girl crush?

R: Christine Caine

M: Emma Watson

6. What is your spirit animal?

R: Lioness

M: Mermaid, but people will call me crazy, so I will go with a fish.  Maybe a koi fish.  Yes, definitely a koi fish!

7.What is one of your favorite quotes?

R: "Do not wait for leaders; do it alone. Person to person." - Mother Teresa

M: “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”  - Gandhi

People will talk, comment, and even complain about endless things but rarely do any of us go the extra mile or even take the first step to do something about it.

8.What would you name the autobiography of your life?

R: Purposeful Life: Do it Well

M: The Fifth Element: Love.

9.What is the best gift (material or not) that you’ve ever received?

R: The opportunity to know God, is the ultimate gift.

M: Inner-peace.

10.  What is your wish for the world?

R: Selflessness, if people were less consumed with the self, we would do more for others.

M: That our hearts be mended.  

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These ladies are hosting a FREE giveaway just for The HHB readers!  Simply follow She Arises on Instagram and/or Facebook for your chance to win this SUPER cute Every Woman is a Rebel tee!  "This go-to tee fits like a well-loved favorite, featuring a slim feminine fit, crew neck, short sleeves with a slim fit and longer body length."  Available in S-XL.  SO CUTE!!!!!

WOW!  Aren't Raquel and Marisol awesome?!  I am so proud of these women, and even more excited that you (my beautiful readers) get to know them, too!

How did you like this first interview?  I would LOVE to hear your thoughts!

xo.  Jen