Health

CREATIVITY, MAGIC, FEAR, & SELF-WORTH

IMG_0430Hi beauties!  I've mentioned a few times that I have been reading Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, and gosh do I love it.  I imagine that Ms. Gilbert talks an awful lot like she writes, which I absolutely love.  She's authentic and vulnerable and creative.  Which is exactly what the book is about: creative living beyond fear.  Doesn't that just sound magical? I wanted to share one of my favorite parts of the book thus far with you (don't worry, I'm not giving anything major away).  Gilbert writes about living creatively at any age, and shares a story about a close friend of hers.  Her friend excelled at and loved figure skating as a child, but stopped when she was an adolescent with fear of not being a champion, AKA not good enough. Gilbert says, "Ah, lovely adolescence--when the 'talented' are officially shunted off from the herd, thus putting the total burden of society's creative dreams on the thin shoulders of a few select souls, while condemning everyone else to live a more commonplace, inspiration-free existence!  What a system..."  While she says this with a hint of sarcastic humor, how true is this for so many?  Unfortunately, it was very true for me.  Thankfully, I finally exited that phase of low self-esteem and worthiness issues, but, just like most humans, I feel twinges of it occasionally.  The difference now is that I have the tools to deal with those feelings, and that's what I want to get into today.

WHERE THE DO FEELINGS OF UNWORTHINESS COME FROM?

Well, that's a pretty loaded question, and it is completely different for everyone.  In the spirit of transparency (and major vulnerability) I am going to share mine, because chances are someone will connect with it on some level.  Mine started when I was about 12.  I was uprooted out of my comfort zone, moved to a new town, started a new school, and was forced to meet new people.  In retrospect, I am very grateful for this (and absolutely do NOT blame my parents on any level), but at the time it sucked.  The middle-school years are when children are learning, growing, and figuring out who they are and how they fit into the world, and THEN hormones are thrown in on top of it.  I felt the need to shy away at what I was passionate about (and good at) in fear of what others would think about me.  I didn't speak up, in fact my voice was less heard.  On top of all that, my body was changing.  I have curves by nature (which I now love), but at that time it was just awkward.  As you can imagine, fear ran it's ugly little head and my worth started to diminish.  This basically went on for the next 13ish years...

HOW CAN WE TRANSFORM UNWORTHINESS TO KNOWING OUR WORTH?

I truly wish I could wave a magic wand and tell you that this can happen in seconds, but the truth is, it's a process.  A process that is different and deep for everyone.  Here are a few different ways that guided and assisted me on my own path:

  • Try to figure out the root of where these feelings are stemming from, and go from there.  Things that helped me along the process: journaling, talking to those close to me, finding a spiritual community that I connected with (this was HUGE for me), and practicing self-care.
  • Recognize your fears, and ask yourself why you are afraid.  There is no judgement in being fearful, but sometimes honoring why you are feeling that way is the first step in release.
  • Be gentle with yourself.  In my opinion, this is most important.  As a society we have such a tendency to want immediate gratification, that we tend to forget that life is a process.  Be gentle with yourself throughout the process.

As you can see, this book has sparked a lot of inspiration and creativity within me, and I highly recommend it.  I hope this post was helpful for you, and if there is any way that I can be of support to you, please reach out.  I'd love to chat!

xo.  Jen

 

BALANCE VS. EXTREME

food-healthy-coffee-cup-largeHi friends!  Jumping right in today... I feel like so many people that I come into contact with have an "all or nothing" mentality when it comes to how they take care of their mind and body.  Maybe I recognize it because it was something that I dealt with heavily in the past, and I can only imagine the emotional weight that may be on their heart?  Maybe it's because now I know how good it feels to be in balance, and I couldn't imagine going back?  Either way, today I am here to chat about the differences between balance and extreme.

This is what EXTREME looks, feels, sounds, and tastes like to me.  I say to me, because this is all from past personal experience.  Everyone's experience is different.
  • I'm going to be 100% vegan, gluten-free, low-sugar, and Ayurvedic ALL AT THE SAME TIME!  No cheese, no caffeine, no sourdough, no alcohol, no eggs, no fun, only kale.
  • I don't have X amount of followers on Instagram so I must be a total loser.
  • That chocolate cake looks heavenly, but I can't eat it because it must have 3956310 calories.  Oh, that's okay, I'll eat it anyway and run six miles tomorrow to make up for it.
  • If I am not as enlightened as Deepak Chopra and Oprah combined, then I am doomed for failure.
  • Fainting spells due to my body being in starvation mode.
  • The "Fuck It" mentality.  IE: "Fuck it, I had a hard day at work and deserve that huge plate of nachos and 7 margaritas!"  When later you are guilt ridden, bloated, and left with a nasty hangover.
This is what BALANCE looks, feels, sounds, and tastes like to me.  I say to me, because this is all from current personal experience.  Again, everyone's experience is different.
  • Intuitive eating.  Most times that naturally looks vegan, gluten-free, low-sugar, and Ayurvedic, but other times it looks like pizza and beer.  Yay for choices!
  • Knowing that the people I connect with in business and in my personal life are there for a reason.
  • Chocolate cake can be delicious!  Especially when mindful about it.
  • Enlightenment is not a destination, it's a journey.  Not sure if I heard that somewhere or made it up, but it really resonates with me.
  • Listening to my body rocks!  I nourish her with yummy foods, and treat her with kindness.  Oh ya, I haven't fainted since!
  • There is absolutely nothing wrong with eating nachos and drinking margaritas. However, taking into consideration why you're doing something is super important.

We all have a tendency to go to the extreme in some situations, and that's totally okay.  We are human after all!  The difference is recognizing why it may be occurring, and coming back to center.  If balance is something that you want more of in your life I encourage you to make a list of all the things you want to feel and experience.  Sometimes writing it down, letting it out, and recognizing what we really do what can do wonders.

If you are ready for transformation and want to have a more balanced approach in life, I have two remaining coaching spots available for the month of February, and would love to provide you with a consultation.  I am here to support you in whatever way feels right to you, and can't wait to talk!

xo.  Jen

5 FRIDAY FAVORITES: NUMBER 1

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Happy Friday, friends!  I thought it would be fun to share some of my recent favorites with you. Things I've been loving, what I've been reading, stuff I've been doing, etc.  Sound fun?  Okay, let's go!

  1. Started using my Desire Map Planner (I have the black and gold one, but it looks like they are out of it now) at the beginning of the year, and I LOVE it!  It supplies you with the best prompts, and keeps me organized at the same time.
  2. Loving this juice combo lately!
  3. I bought this microdermabrasion system (similar to Clarisonic) a while back, and only used it a few times (then kinda forgot about it, ooops!).  Well, in light of the recent chilly weather and use of the heater, my skin has been super dry.  I've been using this every other day, then lathering my face with coconut oil.  My skin feels amazing, and is super hydrated.  P.S. Not sponsored, just love it!  Ha!
  4. My friend, mentor, and minister, Bonnie Rose, wrote this amazing post on her blog, Holy Chit.  It really got me thinking of how I want to show up in 2016 (and life in general).  Plus, there is a really great process to get you started.
  5. I really enjoyed writing this post on setting boundaries, and apparently so did a lot of you!  Did you read it?  Thanks for the love!

What have YOU been loving lately?  Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

xo.  Jen

P.S. With Monday being a holiday, I will be taking it off and spending time with family.  Feel free to keep up with me over on Instagram.  See you next Wednesday!

INTENTIONS FOR 2016

Happy Wednesday, friends!  Ahh...is anyone else still out of their routine from the holidays? Plus, with New Years in a few days, I feel like it may take a few extra days to recoup.  I'm totally okay with that though.  More time to focus on gentle self-care.  My fave!  Side note: was 2015 the quickest year yet?  Geesh! pexels-photo-12233-largeWith the new year upon us lots of folks like to set resolutions they want to attain for the upcoming year.  I really don't think anyone has ill-intent, in fact it is usually the opposite, when setting these said goals, but for me, they often seem super strict, and semi-unattainable.  Hear me out as to why...we (and I say WE because in the past I have sooooo been there) put so much pressure on ourselves to lose those 5 10 15 pounds, or get that super awesome promotion, or whatever.  Then, the moment we eat that donut, or make a simple mistake at the office, all goes out the window.  Doesn't seem very gentle or fair, now does it?

Instead, I like to look at the new year with intention.  What feels good to me?  Is there something that needs to be released?  What kinds of food and exercise bring me joy, rather than make me feel restricted?  Is there an area where I need to hold myself accountable?  Also, and this one is huge, if you skip over something, or don't make something happen, this is completely okay.   Be gentle on yourself, and know that everything unfolds exactly how it is supposed to.

coffee-cup-desk-pen-largeLast year I shared my list of intentions for 2015, and this was really fun for me.  Below is my list of intentions for 2016.  You'll notice that nothing is super specific, and this was on purpose. Normally, I find joy in the details (and still do), but this year, I am really going to try to focus on the broad picture and see what happens.  Right now, that feels good to me.  Again, I'm also allowing myself permission to change at any point in time.

Intentions for 2016Do you have any intentions for 2016?  Any rituals or things you like to do to start off the new year?  I'd love to hear your thoughts!

xo.  Jen

P.S.  I haven't decided if I am going to post on Friday (New Years day), or wait until Monday.  You'll have to check in and see!

FAVORITE MOMENTS OF 2015

Hi friends!  Can you believe 2015 is already coming to a close?  I am still in disbelief with how quickly the year zoomed by.  Seems sort of surreal.  Anyone feel the same way? Last year around this time I shared my Favorite Moments of 2014, and it feels really special to look back on those blessed times with a super grateful heart.  Keeping with tradition, here is a recap of a few of my favorites from this year!

faveStarting & growing my business 

Being an entrepreneur is not for the faint of heart.  It takes a lot of hard work and patience, and will always be a learning process.  I am grateful for this opportunity, and also proud of myself for taking such a big leap.  It wasn't easy, but it's so worth it!

Consistently writing here on The HHB

I am SO grateful to my readers, and to everyone that brings be inspiration!  Consistently writing and showing up here on The HHB has been such a gift, and it's amazing to see how everything has unfolded (and will continue to unfold).

photo 3 (2)Surprise Birthday Party

Greg, Emma, and other family and friends threw me a surprise birthday party this year, and I was SHOCKED (like many expletives shocked, haha).  It was so sweet of them, and one of the best nights of the year!

10653772_10153291012628894_5987745717293918433_nNYC 

Such a fun biz/girls trip with Paige and Sim to one of my favorite cities!  We learned a lot, connected with each other, and had so much fun!

Moving from Ventura to Pasadena

I'll be honest and say that for several months this was quite a challenge for me.  I missed my community of support so much, and felt like a part of me was missing.  Now, I still miss everyone, but it's getting better with time, and I am learning to embrace my new town.  I'm grateful for this opportunity, and even more grateful that Greg and I are doing it as a team.

photo 4 Renewing Mom and Dad's vows

This was such a special moment for me!  I renewed my parents vows for their 30th anniversary. So much fun, and so much love!

11143666_10153460868293894_8326544685341105861_n4th of July in Mammoth with family

This is becoming an annual family trip, and I couldn't enjoy it more.  It is one of my most fond memories of the year, and I just love the relationship I have with my family.

photoReceiving my Spiritual Practitioner license

Holy smokes!  This was deep, meaningful, and super special four year program that came to a close this year.  I am really proud of myself for earning my Spiritual Practitioner license, and love incorporating it into my work.

Graduating from IIN

YAY!  IIN was a fabulous program, and the knowledge and skills I received were life changing. PLUS, this catapulted my health coaching business, where I am able to work with the most amazing clients!

photo 3Adopting Charlie

I have to say that adopting Charlie as part of our little family was definitely in the top, if not the greatest moment of 2015.  When we brought him home, I thought we were helping him, and while we were, he helped us (me in particular) more than I thought possible, and I am so grateful for that.  He is such a sweet soul, and we just love him so much.

Cruise with Greg

Greg and I went on the most relaxing cruise in November, and it was great!  It really recharged both of us, and was a great self/relationship-care trip.  Love my man!

light-person-woman-fire-largeThis year was full of love, self-care, connection, challenge, and lots of opportunities for growth. I had a million amazing moments, and these were just a few.  I feel SO very blessed, and am thrilled for the upcoming year.

In the next few weeks I will be discussing intention, and a few specific ways that we can focus in on our desires and goals in a meaningful way, that is individual to each of us.  How does that sound?  If you have any other questions or topics that you would like me to discuss (specifically surrounding the new year, or beyond), let me know!

Hope you all have a fantastic day, and I'll see you on Wednesday!

xo.  Jen