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SOMETIMES DOING NOTHING IS THE MOST PRODUCTIVE THING TO DO

Hi friends!  With The Soul Connection Series coming up, I really want to share about something that has been on my mind a lot lately.  That is, sometimes doing nothing is the most productive thing you can do.  Before you're like "Jen, that makes no sense," stay with me.  

We live in a fast paced world constantly wanting things to be quicker and more efficient, and where we want instant gratification all of the time.  Am I right?  Trust me when I say that I am as patient as a saint in most circumstances, but heaven forbid the WIFI is slow.  

I've written about slowing down, and different ways of getting to that level of calm, but sometimes, you're human and just can't.  And you know what?  That's totally okay.  I'm here to encourage you to give yourself permission to literally do nothing every once in a while.  

As I already mentioned, sometimes doing nothing is the most productive thing you can do.  I can speak for myself that when I am constantly being pulled in 20 different directions and multi-tasking like crazy, then chances are something (or everything) is going to suffer at some degree.  Stretching ourselves too thin is non-productive in itself.  

So, I challenged myself over the last few weeks is to periodically schedule nothing (I've been doing this about once a week).  That means, no appointments, no client sessions, no dinners with friends, no exercise class, no going to the movies, no grocery shopping, nothing.  THEN, I check-in with myself on those days and say "Since you have nothing planned today, what feels like the most productive thing you can do?"  (I encourage you to check-in with yourself daily, but this is different since you have nothing planned.)  Also, it needs to be said that sometimes laying on the couch watching Netflix all day IS the most productive thing you can do.  Rest is vital.  For example, I scheduled nothing yesterday, and this was my day: make breakfast at home for Greg, Kanan and I, go on a 3 mile walk at the beach, go out to lunner (like 4pm), head to TJ's, prep a few food items to make my week easier, paint my nails, watched a few shows on Netflix, and have mini-rest sessions between all of that.  Sounds like a lot right? Well, it felt like nothing since after each thing I did I checked in with myself and said, "You don't have to do anything else today, so what sounds good to next."  

My encouragement to you is to allow yourself permission to just be.  To check in with your mind, body, and spirit and see what she needs.  To do nothing every once in a while because it is good for your soul.

If you feel called to deepen your relationship with yourself in a fun, relaxed atmosphere, sign-up to be on the list for The Soul Connection Series.  Enrollment starts soon! 

xo. Jen

INVESTING IN YOURSELF

Happy hump day!  Today I want to talk about investing in ourselves.  Yesterday on social media I briefly shared about the importance of investing in ourselves, and today I want to go a bit more in depth.  

For me, investing in myself is like saying, "Jen, you are worthy of providing yourself the best care possible."  We are ALL worthy of providing ourselves supreme care, but often times investing in ourselves can fall by the wayside for one reason or another.  If I were to have one intention as a coach and practitioner, it would be to guide my clients to know the experience of divine self-love and care.  This is vital, and what I feel is the root of many other fulfilling experiences in life.

Side note: investing in yourself doesn't necessarily need to cost anything.  

Caring for myself looks different all the time, so let's take a look at a few examples:

  • Spending a few extra minutes when getting ready for the day.  This has less to do about appearance, and more to do with how this makes you feel.  I know for me that when I "get ready," I feel more productive.  
  • Taking a course, or attending and event or workshop to further your own personal growth or business.
  • Saying "no" when your need to.
  • Listening to your body, and providing her nourishment.  Whether it is eating a bowl of roasted veggies or a bowl of ice cream.  Taking a walk with your dog or lifting weights.  Listening to what your body is telling you is a huge form of investing in yourself.
  • Taking time to rest and relax.  Whether it is going to be early, having a spa day, laying on the couch watching Netflix, or taking a nap, these experiences are important for rejuvenation. 
  • Making space in your life for more joy, fun, and happiness.  

I could keep going on different ways to invest in yourself, but the main component is knowing your worth, and feeling that self-love and care on a daily level.

What does investing in yourself look like to you?

If self-care is something that you would like to deepen in, sign-up below to be the first on my workshop list for The Soul Connection Series, and read more about it here.  We will be talking all about how to best care for ourselves in Nourish Your Soul: A Guide to Divine Self-Care, followed by a really fun Vision Board Workshop.  Registration will begin next week!

xo.

Jen

 

PUSHING THROUGH FEAR

Happy Monday, friends!  Ahh...It feels so good to be back blogging.  I missed you!  In case you didn't see Friday's post, check it out here. Today I wanted to share about something that I have been thinking about a lot lately: Fear. More importantly, pushing through your fears.  I will start by saying, that at least for me, pushing through my fears is often easier said than done.  It is definitely a process.

Needless to say, I'm not talking about healthy fears, like being scared of a bear, or going into soccer mom mode when you have to hit the brakes quickly while driving and throw your arm across the passenger (I can't be the only person that does this?).  I'm talking about fears like staying in a consistently unhappy relationship (love, friendship, work-related, etc.) because it is easier than speaking up about what's not working, or not making the next move in your career because you're afraid of failing and not being good enough, or even not trying the yoga class that you've really been wanting to try but feel that you may be too fat to even try it.  Side note: These are all personal experiences that I have had in the past, which is how I know that fear shows up in so many areas of life.

Looking back, I have this huge laundry list of times that I was so fearful, that I just didn't do something.  So many times, it's ridiculous.  Part of me gets really frustrated at my younger-self and wants to shake her and say, "Wake the F up!  You are wasting so much time being fearful and unhappy!  This isn't nearly as big of deal as you are making it!  YOU CAN DO IT!"  But then, I have this other part of me that knows that all of those fears were part of my process, and brought me to exactly where I am today.  And for that, I am profoundly grateful.

When I went to NYC last year for Holistic MBA Live, Stacey Morgenstern (one of the co-founders) said something that really stuck with me: "Fear is excitement on pause."  I look at that as if the momentum of joy has just momentarily frozen in time, and is waiting for the right moment to melt and unfold.  Isn't that such a wonderfully different way to look at fear?  I thought so!

"Fear is excitement on pause."

Don't get me wrong, fear still comes up for me constantly.  However, now I look at it differently.  I take a deeper look and try to recognize why it is showing up for me, and the lesson I am supposed to learn.  If the fear hasn't subsided, I still try to push through it (sometimes this takes three minutes, sometimes this takes three months).  For example, my friend Jill and I were facilitating our Be-you-tiful YOU! workshop yesterday, and about two days before the workshop I started to get super fearful that not enough people would attend.  I kept questioning myself: What if no one shows up?  What if I have nothing important to say, and Jill has to carry the whole thing?  What if it goes chaotic and doesn't flow?  What if, what if, what if???

Sunday morning I woke up and said to myself "Even if it's just Jill and I, it's going to be awesome and fun.  I'm proud of myself for putting myself out there and doing this!"  And guess what?  It was very well attended, we got great feedback, and it WAS awesome and fun!

My feeling is that even if something doesn't go the way you planned, but you did it anyway, there is always triumph and success.  There is always an opportunity to learn and be grateful.

When is a time that you pushed through fear, and came out the other side with a great lesson? I'd love to hear!

xo.  Jen

HI! REMEMBER ME?!

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Sea glass hunting a few weekends ago with my love

Happy Friday, beauties!  Remember me?  I used to blog here on a consistent basis (M/W/F to be precise), then dropped off the face of the blog world for about three weeks.  Ringing a bell? HA!

I could tell you all about the "stuff" that has been going on in my life (and probably will in the next few weeks), but honestly, I just don't feel like typing it all out right now.  I recognize when a break is needed, and I am totally okay with it.  Honoring yourself looks different to everyone, and in this circumstance, it was stepping back from parts of my "normal-everyday-life," and just relaxing as much as possible.  Can anyone relate to that?

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Mother Nature showing off

Anyway, I am glad to be back, and have lots to share and go over!

With the time I took off from blogging, it really got my creative juices flowing.  I filled many pages with business ideas, creative endeavors, and blog post topics.  Over the next few weeks I have several planned posts, as well well as days where I left it open to be spontaneous, and write about whatever I feel like.  That feels so fun to me!

Side note: If you have any post requests, please send them in! 

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Color and design inspiration for the new HHB, by Rachel at Oh, Simple Joys!

A few announcements:

  • My NEW website is almost finished, and I am soooo excited for the final product, and for you all to see it!  EEEK!!
  • My workshop, Be-you-tiful YOU! that I am co-facilitating with my sweet friend Jill is this Sunday in Ventura.  For more info on what it's about, and/or to pre-register, click here.
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Favorite dinner lately: roasted sweet potatoes, raw greens, and 6 minute eggs...YUM!

Thanks for all the love, and being the best readers ever!  You all are amazing, and I appreciate you!

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Our handsome boy after he went to the groomers

We're headed to Ventura later today to spend time with family, go to the beach, help friends unpack after their move, and facilitate the Be-you-tiful YOU! workshop.  What do you have in store this weekend?

xo.  Jen

30 THINGS I'VE LEARNED BEFORE 30

hands-summer-party-colorful-largeHappy Monday!  Guess what?!  I'm 30 years old today!  30!!!  That feels like such a grown-up age to me.  No, I'm not one of those people that think 30 is old, nor am I someone that doesn't celebrate my birthday.  Can you tell? Ha!  I LOVE birthdays!  Yours, mine, and ours!  An entire day (or month, the older I get) dedicated to celebrating the fact that you are alive?  I'm in! Anyway, with all this new-found wisdom (I kid, I kid), I thought it would be fun to compile a list of 30 things I have learned up until this age.  I certainly don't know it all, but I do know a few things to be true (for me, from my own experience)  and thought I would share them.  I know I will continue to learn and grow, and that is so exciting to me!

30 THINGS I'VE LEARNED BEFORE 30

  1. Everything happens for a reason, my friends.  Also, it's helpful to remember: what goes around, comes around.
  2. While we may be equal, men and women are different.
  3. Finding a spiritual practice that you connect with is enlightening in and of itself.  Whether you're part of an organized religion or you're an atheist, you can still have a spiritual practice that works for you.
  4. Moisturizing your skin really does make a difference.
  5. Never stop learning.  Education is beyond the classroom, and knowledge is timeless.
  6. Relationships of all kinds take work, and are completely worth it.  However, that doesn't mean they need to be difficult.
  7. Don't let your past dictate your future.  Be grateful for the lesson, and move on.
  8. Quality > quantity.  Those Forever 21 dresses may be cute for a few wears, but a classic LBD will last for years.  This goes for just about everything in life.
  9. The older you get, the more you appreciate your parents.
  10. Worrying doesn't help an already seemingly negative situation.  In fact, the situation most likely isn't as bad as you think it is in the first place.
  11. Listen to the advice of others, but always do what feels best in your heart.
  12. Tests, quizzes, and grades do not determine your success.
  13. Our thoughts and words create our reality.  Choose wisely.
  14. Drinking a glass of water in between alcoholic beverages works wonders.
  15. Forgiveness does much more for yourself than it does for others.
  16. Travel as often and as much as you possibly can.  There are so many beautiful places in the world, and they are filled when even more beautiful people.
  17. Don't put up with people that don't value your worth.  Period.
  18. Give of yourself.  Like attracts like, goodness attracts more goodness.  Volunteer, donate, etc.  It isn't about money, it's about intention.  Kindness counts.
  19. Invest in yourself: mind, body, and spirit.  You're worth it!
  20. Diets don't work.  Listening to your body does.  P.S. If you don't love yourself at a size 16, you're not going to love yourself at a size 2.
  21. If you like something about someone else, tell them!  Whether it is their shoes, the way they smile, their sense of humor, whatever.  People like compliments!
  22. Be present.  Show up in life.  Do the work.  Live fully.
  23. Figure out what your partner likes, and do more of it.  That can be interpreted many ways, but the main essence is that love languages are indeed real.
  24. You always look better in photos than you actually think.  Trust me.  Look at photos from when you thought you looked "ugly, fat, skinny, etc."  You were gorgeous.  You still are!
  25. It's okay if you don't know what you want to do with your life.  I'll let you in on a little secret: most people don't.  With that being said, try new things until you figure out what you enjoy.  You can never have too many tools in your tool belt.
  26. Just because you don't agree with someone and their beliefs, doesn't mean you can't have respect for one another.
  27. People come in and out of our lives for a purpose.  Sometimes they are there forever, other times it is only for a brief encounter.  Cherish those moments.
  28. Keep in contact with your siblings.  They may even turn out to your best friends.
  29. Move your body!  You don't need to run a marathon or become a world class gymnast, simply stretch or take a walk.  Your body is magnificent, and you'll be thankful when you're older.
  30. Most importantly, LOVE.  Love yourself, love others, just love.  It's the greatest gift you can give and receive.

photo 3Thank you for taking the time to spend my birthday with me!  What is something that YOU have learned in life that you want others to know, too?  Please share!

xo.  Jen